February 15, 2008

Cradlesnatcher

Why guys date much younger girls?
This was a question which puzzled me often during my college years when I would see 18-year old girls going with guys, actually men, 10 years or so older than them. I would feel disgusted at such irresponsible behaviour of the man, who would have better judgment than to woo a lil girl like this.
Today, much older and a bit wiser, I think I have found the answer *patted self on back*.
Once the guys cross the 25-year barrier, they become eligible targets for matrimonial union. The multitude which obliges to societal and parent pressure settles into his nest. What happens to the mondaine who still do not want to get married?
Free-willed, this man-about-town acquires himself a girlfriend or two. This causes further trouble a few years down the line when the woman also wants to ‘settle down’. Slowly but surely the market of young adult girlfriend-material also begins to dry up. Moreover, India has a stinky reputation of keeping the demand of she- population always high by rampant female foeticide.
Desperate times call for desperate measures. With his ‘experience’ he knows all the tricks to woo a woman; young or old. The monkey business never fails; the charm never fades. Plus, he has money to lavish on the girl.
With all this going for him, the pimple-faced, gawky college-boy stands no competition. Flowers, chocolates, expensive gifts…he can afford it all. He doesn’t have to burn the midnight oil pouring over books; that’s the time to party. Weekends aren’t spent drinking cutting chai with friends with bun-maska at the colony tea-stall when his can zip in your roadster can transport to the getaway resort. Very exciting and tempting for a girl who has just got out of her pinafores and is beginning to hem-up her skirts.
And she isn’t going to worry him about tying the knot. All she is looking for is apprenticeship in the love market, and being with the older man brings other bonuses too.
So is this unfair, unethical? Today, I think not. Both parties are using each other for convenience. If it materializes into a deeper relationship eventually, so be it.
Another unsightly question of life answered…the remainder continue to friskily toss about in my head till I can demystify their answers.

3 comments:

Firefoxcub said...

Ha ha. This made me laugh. Because here I am at age 25 with a 53 year old man.
Yes, you know me. :)

Ah.Maze.Ing said...

Of course I remember you. Used to follow ur whacky college assignments for a while.
Howdy? Thot u'd landed in Dubai.
And how did the 53 yr old come abt? Wot happened to the cutie u were dating?
tc...

Firefoxcub said...

yeah my parents were in DUbai. I actually went to work in Kerala for a bit where i met the old man. and then he smuggled me to the States. Im coming back in 2 weeks to bangalore. i might have an interview with our old magazine hate.
the cutie i was dating asked me to marry him and i freaked out. besides all that long distance BS doesnt work unless one of us has a ton of money.